Losing weight to get a guys attention
Sorting Last Post on Top Message:. Do you want to lose weight for yourself, first? Wanting the attention that comes from looking better is totally normal, I think. Some external motivation can be good.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Why Weight Loss Is All In Your Head - Drew Manning on Health Theory
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- For Many People, Especially Women — Weight Loss Is Not a Happy Ending
- Ask Polly: My Friend Lost Weight and Now I Want Him. Am I Shallow?
- Weight Loss and What Trainers Don’t Prepare You For
- 6 Awkward New Things You Deal With When Losing Weight
- More Male Attention once You Lose a Certain Amount of Weight?
For Many People, Especially Women — Weight Loss Is Not a Happy Ending
I feel like there are two factors in a situation that we should consider. Us: Remember when I dated Kevin , the guy who I grew up with? Kevin liked me since elementary school. But as young PSP, I convinced myself that there was no way on Gods green earth that a guy like him would like a fat girl like me.
Even though all signs pointed to him liking me, I did everything in my power to push him away. Men are physical creatures and from what I hear, physical attraction must be there in order for them to go any further with a woman. Women can grow to become attracted to a guy over time, or see the person they are and fall for that instead of their looks.
Some guys just like skinny girls. So, knowing that… the real thing we have to figure it is how YOU feel. You can read my account of the scene and then rent the movie, if you can.
I would feel as you do and have a hard time forgiving men who only seem to be romantically interested in a skinnier version of the original and still great! Perhaps the way you carry yourself now is different. Was it there before? While I have not yet reached my goal weight, I have lost 52lbs and my body has transformed sooner than I would have imagined and apparently more noticeable than I imagined too!
With that has come attention from men who I know would have completely ignored me before. I honestly wish I had a solution as to how to make you feel better about this but the best advice I could give is to go with your instinct.
I must say that I do too! It really helped me get rid of the anger I was feeling about all of this. Dating is hard enough as it is! There are real gems further on up the road worth cherishing who will want you for who you are not what you look like.
I can so relate to this after losing over pounds. Men that had never shown the least bit of interest or were downright rude came crawling out of the woodwork. Although it might seem like it might be fun I found that I still thought that they were completely shallow jerks whose number one criteria was my ass. I ended up letting those ones pass by and married a guy that had a crush on me when I was wearing a 3X.
Luckily he still liked me when I got down to a size 8. And I was almost arrogantly confident at a size 3X too, just for different reasons. This a great topic for discussion! I still wonder sometimes but very seldomly. My thoughts are, just like CeCe said, maybe they see you with a better confidence in yourself. Either way, enjoy yourself! Live like a Princess! What if she gains 3 lbs tomorrow?! Will he dump her until she works those pounds off? I say screw him… get someone who loves you for you….
The poster is coming from a place of pain, she was treated like furniture at one size and now is suddenly being seen. But at the end of the day, there is NO WAY you can know if the new guys talking to you would of liked you before. The only difference between guys you used to know asking you out and new guys is that you have a history with the old guys.
My advice, treat men like they have treated you, love is not real, and know in your heart if you gain 20 lbs they will leave you. Sorry to be so bitter, but I had to learn the truth the hard way.
Yes she is right. Just understand that that is the way that the world works. Men and women do it. When you understand this, you can make it work for you rather than against you. But smart girls know that being pretty is helpful and gives you power in this society. Why not lose a few pounds and beat these jerks at their own game? On another note, men tend to like women in a certain weight range because of health and reproductive reasons.
Men also tend to like women with proportional waist to hip ratios. The higher the ratio is, the less attractive men find women. Lower waist hip ratios are linked to healthier offspring while women wih higher waist hip ratios have more instances of complications during pregnancy. I think most of you are missing the point. I am similar to Weighted and Confused in that I went from a size 20 to a size 8, I am 28 and have only ever had one boyfriend.
I am SOOOO happy I did not meet someone in my overweight state, because that person very likely would not have fit my life now. I work hard to keep fit and I want my partner to do the same. I do not judge those men who passed me up before, I would not have wanted me either. I very much doubt most of them would. My last boyfriend was overweight, ate terribly and hated the thought of exercise.
And while he liked the way I looked, it would have been a miserable life if I stayed with him. Regardless of who it is, they have to be amazing and love me for who I am….. Happiness radiates from the outside in. You are a beautiful woman and seeking validation from male attention or lack thereof…is a most dangerous game. I refuse to date anyone that I knew lbs that is just now paying attention to me.
Boy bye. Happiness radiates from the inside out. Someone help me out here. But Shoejunkie took the words right out of my mouth. Yes, the fact of the matter is, these friends may not have been physically attracted to you when you were heavier. You literally lost HALF of your body mass, which is amazing, but it means that you were a lot bigger to start with.
Either way, these guys still wanted to be around you and considered you a friend. What is a friend really but someone we are not sexually attracted to? Were YOU ever physically attracted to these men?
Did you ever try to make a move? In your note you said that you figured once you got down to a certain size, that men would be falling all over themselves to date you. I say give your friends who you hit it off wih before a chance. Men are visual. The way you look now messes with their hormones. This is instinctual, involuntary. Pure animal instinct and lust. That is the goal. And very frankly, our outside appearance is a clear manifestation of what is going on with us inside.
More organized, more focused. Wanting to honor my body by preserving it and only putting the best in it. More spritually grounded. I gain weight and start getting bad acne when I get depressed, have money issues, experience deaths of lived ones, get overwhelmed and stressed with work and school.
So to that effect, should we really penalize some men not talking about the douchie jerks here for making an initial judgement based on what we look like? Really think about that. You ARE a different persin with different prioritiez… the old you would not have deprived herself of chocolate.
The new you has. Choosing a healthy lifestyle says a lot about the new you. Some people will be attra ted to that, others will prefer the type of person who is more ruled by a need to indulge. Take this new attention for what it is. Two things: 1. Hi Dear. I went from an 18 to 10 and was getting way more stares after I dropped the weight than when I was fluffier.
As far as the men coming out of the wood works for you, they will. Just frequent other places outside of your comfort zone. Think about the kind of man you want to meet. Is he into the arts? Try a museum. Is he into church?
Ask Polly: My Friend Lost Weight and Now I Want Him. Am I Shallow?
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I was overweight or obese most of my life. I only vaguely remember being normal size before the age of 6. Everything I really knew about myself was centered on my size. Here are a few perceptions and observations I personally encountered after my drastic weight loss five years ago.
I feel like there are two factors in a situation that we should consider. Us: Remember when I dated Kevin , the guy who I grew up with? Kevin liked me since elementary school. But as young PSP, I convinced myself that there was no way on Gods green earth that a guy like him would like a fat girl like me. Even though all signs pointed to him liking me, I did everything in my power to push him away. Men are physical creatures and from what I hear, physical attraction must be there in order for them to go any further with a woman. Women can grow to become attracted to a guy over time, or see the person they are and fall for that instead of their looks. Some guys just like skinny girls. So, knowing that… the real thing we have to figure it is how YOU feel. You can read my account of the scene and then rent the movie, if you can.
Weight Loss and What Trainers Don’t Prepare You For
FAQ on Coronavirus and Mefi : check before posting, cite sources; how to block content by tags. How did this change for you? What changed? I see physically attractive men around, but they never approach me or even look at me.
My back pain has become more manageable and my moods have become stabilized. I sleep better at night and also can shift between time zones more easily. How do you deal with being physically different? For me this manifests itself in a lot more attention from others.
6 Awkward New Things You Deal With When Losing Weight
Did you experience these issues as well? I lost over 70 pounds and work at a small town drug store. Customers are driving me NUTS!
More Male Attention once You Lose a Certain Amount of Weight?
Dear Polly,. In the four years or so since we became friends he has been nothing but strong, smart, selfless, and surprisingly charismatic the type that ALWAYS knows the perfect thing to say. It made me feel silly and extremely insecure, and my female friends are the type that want me to feel pretty, but never ever prettier than they are. Fast-forward a couple of years, and he is at least pounds lighter, is on his way to finishing law school, and has really invested in his appearance. He really took what I said to heart, because literally days after we had our conversation I noticed a gym membership card on his keys. Well, this transformation completely took me by surprise, but it definitely made me more interested. We spent more time together this summer than in summers past, usually with a few drinks in hand, and I decided that I would bring the subject up again. Kinda gave up on you.
I lost 60 pounds hooray! Being overweight made me very self-conscious physically and since no males ever showed interest in me, I never gave the effort to pursue. Having someone romantically in my life just seemed like another thing to put on my plate. In the past, I would go out to social events with my friends but never had any males approach me.
From diet plans, pills, fitness packages, and juice cleanses, Americans spend millions of dollars on weight loss products each year. One study , conducted by researchers at North Carolina State University, found that when one partner lost weight, the relationship suffered. A study, cited by Business Insider , discovered that individuals who lost 5 percent of their body weight over the course of four years were more likely to feel depressed than those who maintained their weight during that same timeframe.
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